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Conspiracy of Goodness Podcast

Dec 21, 2021

Debbie Gisonni has what I believe to be the most powerful way to overcome disappointment and let go of the illusion of control.

Debbie is an author, speaker, happiness guru, and corporate advisor who inspires people to make simple changes that radically improve their self-awareness, well-being, and success! 

She is the founder of SELF POWER NOW! - a media and consulting company offering books, online courses, and corporate advisory services that empower people to make positive changes in their lives.

Her goal is to help people address and balance all realms of life – mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional. She is also the author of several titles: Note to Self, Vita’s Will, and The Goddess of Happiness.

For her work with corporate executives to women’s groups to teens, she was inducted into the Happiness Hall of Fame, an honor shared by other inductees including Deepak Chopra, Serena Williams, Taylor Swift, and Dolly Parton. 


Wow, what a force for positive change this woman is! Jump right into the episode, and let’s experience the magic that happens when you stop rowing upstream and trust the river of life.

[00:01 - 6:40] Opening Segment


  • I introduce Debbie Gisonni 
    • Bio 
  • Debbie shares about the positivity that is currently happening in the world 
    • Employees questioning their job’s cultures 
    • People were forced to be with theirselves 
    • There are massive shifts happening in people’s lives 


[06:41 - 16:31] Self Awareness and Silencing Mental Chatter


  • Debbie talks about the power of choice 
    • Everything that happens, happens exactly at the time it’s needed 
    • The only thing you can control is “the now” 
    • Tell the pesky voice “Stop! this is not true!” 
  • The power of self-awareness
    • Knowing who you are
    • You can’t step forward if you don’t know yourself 
    • The issue of living in the “outer world” 
    • Stop the mental chatter with silence 
  • Asking better questions and getting loving answers 
    • The power of pen and paper - write questions 
    • Answer yourself with love 
  • How to practice silence 
    • Meditation doesn’t always have to be quiet
    • It’s important to “play” to reconnect with your spirit 


[16:32 -  32:23] What to Do When Your Dreams Don’t Come True


  • Debbie talks about dealing with disappointment 
    • Retraining the mind for positivity 
    • Not everybody reaches the level of their dream
    • Celebrate every moment 
    • Debbie’s journey as an author facing disappointment 
      • Remember the real reason you did something
    • If you love something then continue to do it
  • There is no one path 
    • Continue to move forward in openness and optimism 
    • Obstacles are important 
    • There are no guarantees or good time - just do what you want
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[32:24 -  51:42] Trust the River of Life: Stop Rowing Upstream


  • Debbie breaks down her view of life’s river
    • Rivers only flow in one direction 
    • Most of us only try to row upstream 
    • Problems are part of the river’s flow, you have to go through it
    • You will be ok 
  • We can’t control everything 
    • You can only control how you react 
  • Thoughts on change 
    • Facing the fear of being wrong
    • How to change your mind 
      • Framing things positively 
    • Stop worrying about the outside world 
    • “The path of least resistance” 
      • It’s less change but we suffer a lot longer 
  • Incorporating gratitude into your life
    • Gratitude is the key to happiness
    • Gratitude makes us live in the now 
    • How to exercise gratitude 
      • Breaking out of “why me?” 
    • Accept what is 
  • Be open to possibilities 
    • Surrender is not giving up, but following the river’s flow 
    • What is your definition of success? 
      • Try not to define the outcome 
    • Sometimes we need to “unfollow our dreams” 
      • It’s okay to let it go 


[51:43 - 57:06] Closing Segment


  • There are gifts hidden in the tragedies 
    • You have the choice to find positivity 
  • How to connect with Debbie and her work
    • Links below 
  • Final announcements 


Tweetable Quotes:

“We absolutely can not control everything. The only thing we can control is how we react to what’s happening.” - Debbie Gisonni

“If it’s not positive and it’s not loving then it’s not you, cause we are all loving beings.” - Debbie Gisonni

“Life is like a river… it only flows in one direction and we tend to spend a lot of our time rowing upstream.” - Debbie Gisonni

“Gratitude is the linchpin to happiness no matter what you’re doing. Because it allows you to be in the now… It crowds out the negativity” - Debbie Gisonni

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